My husband and I live with his parents and we have a 2 1/2 month son.. my mother in law is CONSTANTLY taking him from me, watching him all the time, playing with him, she always calls him "her boy"..she'll say to him "look at you, my little one"..sometimes when I hold him, she will come over and say "give him to me" as if I cannot calm him down. He will wake up in the middle of night and she will already be up in his room ready to feed him! I am bottle feeding and I feel like when she feeds him she looks at him like its her own son, I feel like now when he looks at her he looks at her as a mother. He smiles at her and my husband all the time, and I can't seem to get the same reaction. He cries, when I have him, but not with her. Is it possible my son thinks his grandma is his mom? Should we be looking a new place?

     It is hard to answer your question without knowing more about who is your baby's primary caregiver. Who usually feeds him, dresses him, bathes him, holds and plays with him? If that is his grandmother, then, yes, it is possible for him to look on her as if she were the mother, and you would take a secondary role for him (like a big sister).  If she is the one he turns to first for comfort, then he may see her that way.

     Hard as it may be while living in your in-laws' home,  it sounds as if you need to establish yourself clearly in the mothering role. You need to let her know that you want to be the one who primarily cares for your baby; it is OK for her to care for him occasionally, (the more loving people he has around him, the better, in most instances), but you are his mother, and you need to be the one who fills the mother role for your child. It would be best if your husband would explain to his mom that you need to be the primary caregiver for the baby, and let her know that while you appreciate her help and are glad that he has her in his life, you will get up with him and take care of him unless you ask for her help, ask her to baby sit for awhile, etc. If you and your husband can work together and change things so that your baby begins to look first to you for comfort and to have his needs met, then you would not need to move out in order for your role as his mother to be firmly established. Hopefully your mother-in-law will understand and will continue to be a loving presence in your baby's life.

If she keeps stepping in after you have talked to her about it I personally Would look for somewhere else if you have tried EVERYTHING else....I know it can be hard for your baby's grandparents not to step in sometimes when you are there and sometimes they don't realize that they are hurting your feelings because they might see you as tired and frustrated and trying to help....but if it continues for a period after repeated attempts to express how you both feel, then find somewhere else....I know someone that is having the same issue, and it is causing ALOT of problems. BEST OF LUCK!!