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Topics: 23 Posts: 62
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 Created over 3 years ago
i am very confused about baby shower etiquette these days. i know a bunch of girls who are actually planning their own baby showers. i always thought that baby showers are supposed to be a surprise party...or just a party..planned for you by family or friends?
also, i know girls who are having baby showers for their second and third babies? i also thought this was supposed to be taboo since supposedly its assumed you have things from your other children?
i'm not saying i think its bad or wrong..just wondering opinions on it? i've been thinking alot about it lately because even though this my husband and mine third addition to our family, its our FIRST together. and our kids are older so we have absolutely NOTHING left or saved. a baby shower would really help us out but i dont want to throw myself one and i dont want people to think we are being greedy or something if someone else throws us one.
and lets not even mention the fact that my husband's mother doesn't even believe in baby showers!! 
so...what do you think? tacky to throw yourself one? greedy to hint to friends and family you kinda need one even though you have kids already??
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Topics: 6 Posts: 588
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Created over 3 years ago
Not really sure what to think. I had 2 baby showers for Hunter. My mom and sister threw me one with my family and friends, and then 2 of my aunt in laws threw me one for that side of the family. That one was like a family reunion, it wasn't just the gals it was everyone in the family including my parents. They both were a lot of fun. Neither were a suprise though, I knew about both. Maybe the way the economy is going some women feel they need to through themselves one or something, I don't know. But I wouldn't through myself one.
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Topics: 1 Posts: 9
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Created over 3 years ago
I kinda help my mom throw me a baby shower and i dont thinks its wrong to throw yourself one having a baby shower actually help me out a lot cause i actually got the crib and the swing and the bassinet as a gift at the baby shower and alot of other stuff
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Topics: 39 Posts: 292
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Created over 3 years ago
Okay, so I am not sure about the whole throwing it yourself....me myself couldn't bring myself to do it, but I have heard of people having baby showers for subsequent children, especially when they are further apart, or you marry and it is your or the spouse's first depending....I would see if maybe you could throw some big hints to friends or family about it being your guy's FIRST together, or about the fact that you don't have anything saved from your earlier kids....I have also heard of someone having a shower say for instance they had all boys so far and this is their first girl....Anyways getting to my point, see if you can drop hints to friends or family, or try bringing it up to a close friend, and ask their opinion, who knows maybe they will just offer to throw you one! I don't think that most people would see it as greedy if SOMEONE ELSE threw you one, but they might if YOU threw yourself one....also if you are finding out the sex of the baby(cause I noticed you have girls) and find out it is a boy, people might be more willing to throw ya one ;-) However, if not then maybe you could throw a get together just celebrating that this is your guys' first together, and celebrate the fact that your girls are going to be big sisters...one is already one, but the younger one isn't yet....or some kind of get together like that.....GOOD LUCK!!! I was kind of hoping that I would be able to have another baby shower, since this time I am expecting a girl, but I don't know....cause when I had my second son, I had all the stuff from my older boy, and the crib that I had broke, and I had to get rid of the baby car seat cause it was in bad condition, so I know what that feels like to have nothing and having to start new.
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Topics: 24 Posts: 113
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Created over 3 years ago
I don't think I would throw a shower for myself. I can't even imagine having the energy to plan and organize one. I do understand that if your kids are older you may not have any baby stuff saved. I'm not sure what I would do.
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Topics: 23 Posts: 62
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Created over 3 years ago
I think I'm just going to flat out tell my my mom..."hey mom, throw me a shower!" lol but I do like the just having a party idea too. We'll see I guess. Some of my friends asked me if I had a registry or wish list already so who knows, maybe I will get some sort of surprise.
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Topics: 39 Posts: 292
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Created over 3 years ago, Modified over 3 years ago
Hey then you better go register if some friends already asked ya, they may be thinking about buying or giving you a shower :D LOL......Glad we could help!!! Let us know what happens!
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Topics: 11 Posts: 21
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Created over 3 years ago
My family is throwing one for me. I have panic attackes with surprises (why I want to know the sex so bad) and they let me help. I invite who I want and I know when and where it is...
We find the sex out 7 days before it.. LOL
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Topics: 34 Posts: 115
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Created over 3 years ago
I think that you can have as many baby showers as you want to. I know people who have them with every child, which is not wrong at all. A new baby is something to celebrate and spoil rotten and that's what baby showers are for!
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Topics: 1 Posts: 10
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Created over 3 years ago
I dont think it's wrong to have a baby shower for each child at all! Most people these days sell the old stuff on Craigslist, it breaks, or is passed to a sibling or something! I dont know anyone who just hangs on to everything! Also, I don't think its wrong to have shower for yourself... i would make it a huge she-bang with every person in your address book but your closest girlfriends and your moms... and make it more of a celebration of a new baby coming. If there are gifts brought- then so be it! We are living in the year 2009, there shouldnt be a stigma on showers and who throws them and "etiquette" of showers... for pete's sake! PS, was not yelling lol- just got a little excited
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