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Topics: 3 Posts: 57
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 Created over 4 years ago
So right now i am totally balling my eyes out! i hate it because my babies dad tottally stresses me out! as many of you guys know already i have had a really rough pregnancy so far and my babies dad has been nothing but usupportive to me! today i wrote him a message on myspace asking him a simple question if he was going to help me out by buying her anything that she needs such as a crib a car seat a stroller bouncer or swing since those are the most expensive things. and what he did was block me! every time i have talked to him since i have been pregnant the only things it has been for is so that he could yell at me and tell me how i ruined his life and tell me how much he hates the name amora. and it just breaks my heart because its not his fault and he shouldnt hate her. she is my daughter and she deserves the best things in life! but anyways to cut to the chase after he decided to pretty much imply that he isnt going to buy anything she needs i wrote a message to his best friend who is also one of my friends babies dad and who is also a good friend of mine and told him to tell the sperm doner of my child that my daughter is no longer going to have his last name and will have mine, and that i am not going to be putting him on the birth certificate because one day when i get married my husband will adopt her. that way we wont have to ruin his life and he can just forget about us and forget about the fact that he has a daughter! am i over reacting or would everyone else react the same way? i just need some advice because all i want is for him to love her the way i do because i never got that from my dad! i too was raised by another man!
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Topics: 4 Posts: 11
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Created over 4 years ago
I think you did the right thing and in the end you can't force anyone to love anyone, so maybe you should just leave him alone and if someday he realises how stupid and childish he was acting towards you, you can take it from there, but at the moment as sad as it is, from what you told, there's nothing you can do. Try to concentrate on yourself and your little baby girl and don't worry too much. Good luck and congrats on your pregnancy!
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Topics: 14 Posts: 109
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Created over 4 years ago
i think you did the right thing! you cant force him to step up and take responsibility soo if thats the case with him he doesnt deserve to be on the birth certificate or for her to have his last name its not fair to the you or the baby u didnt crawl on top of urself and get pregnant and she definately doesnt deserve she's just a poor innocent baby thats his own flesh and blood and its really sad but you cant make him be a part of it soo just forget him and wen he does decide to grow up and realizes how dumb he was it will be too late and he will be sorry.....just try and worry about you and gettin little amora out safe and makin everything great for her cuz this stress isnt good for her either and i hope everything works out for you! be strong and congrats on the pregnancy and amora is a beautiful name!
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Topics: 6 Posts: 77
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Created over 4 years ago
unfortunately threating guys doesnt get through with them. most would (sadly) prefer it that way. just put your chin up and take care of that beautifuly named baby girl. she will know who is important too her. and by the way, get him for child support. i guarantee he will help pay for something haha!
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Topics: 3 Posts: 57
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Created over 4 years ago
well i can garuntee otherwise i know he isnt going to pay child support thats not the type of person he is he doesnt care if they send him to jail for not paying he wont pay! and im not threatening him thats what i am going to do! you guys have NO idea what i have been going through with him! one minute hes going to be there for her the next its not even his baby! im sick of these head games he plays and i DO NOT want my daughter to ever have to expirience them because thats all he does! he lets a 14 girl run his life and keep him from being in his daughters! Im sorry but if he cant even be man enough to tell her that this is his daughter and there is nothing she can do to undo that than he doesnt even deserve to be there or deserve to be called her father!
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Topics: 14 Posts: 109
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Created over 4 years ago
i definately dont think you should give him the right if he is gonna act like that he doesnt deserve it and he will be sorry laterr on and plus if he doesn pay and has nuthin to do with her u wont have to deal with any crap later wen if he were ever to decide that he wanted to be in her life he wont be able to try and take her or ne thing of the sort youll be better off without him i hope everything works out for you
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Topics: 1 Posts: 58
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Created over 4 years ago
Dang girl. I am so sorry. I never had a dad either, my dad was nothing but a jack as* and did nothing for me, but abuse me, hurt me and my mom, abandaned me, etc. It was bad. If he doesn't want to be a part of your babies life then so be it, it is his loss, you will find someone better that will love you and your baby more then he ever could. It might be hard at first, but everything will work out. I promise! It's always hard at first, some guys just aren't mature enough and have enough responsibilty to raise a child, it's sad but true. Maybe he will come around one day and everything will work out. You never know what could happen. I think you just need to focus on your baby, and her being healthy and your health. Don't let him get to you, i know it's hard but try! You will be just fine. Once you have the little girl, all your pain will go away i guarentee you that. I hope you the best of luck, if you ever need anyone to talk to i am here! =]].
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Topics: 0 Posts: 19
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Created over 4 years ago
My advise... it's all about you and Amora. Do what you can, and take care of yourself and the babe growing inside you. There's always something. The best support comes from family.
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Topics: 0 Posts: 1
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Created over 4 years ago
Forget him! You and your baby do not need the added stress hes giving you! Like many have said you cannot make him love you/her. And sometimes its better that way! (trust me) As for child support I wouldnt go for it because than hes going to have a sort of right to that baby. If you are low on cash than just know that there are many many programs designed to help. There are also stores such as Once upon a child ( not sure if you have one around) but look into it. Most of their items are donated but very lightly used and a very good price!
Remeber that things and people that hurt you emotionaly/phys. are NOT good for you or your baby! I know I would much rather not have a father figure than to have a deadbeat that treats me and my mother like crap! Stay stong!!
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Topics: 1 Posts: 3
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Created over 4 years ago
My opinion,do what's best for you and your daughter. Take care of yourself and Amora. I'm sure it's gonna be all good for you and her. It's him who will miss out. I think it'd be better this way. I mean,it's way better than having someone to stress you and who is abusive and doesn't care about their family. So I think it's better for you this way. Stay strong and I'm sure it's all going to be ok for you and the baby :)
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