so i told my husband i was going to poll my friends on this little debate we're having. sitting here and typing it out now it's seems kinda funny to me but here's the deal.

my husband has this long time friend, who's a girl, who he used to be really close to. she used to help out when he was single father and they did have "relations" once but they both were like woah awkward and it's been platonic ever since. since i have been with him, they have lost touch a little but they are still friends. this weekend is my hubby's bday party and we invited her to come, and she responded on his facebook about how she couldn't, but maybe she could later, "sorry babe."

 

i'm not going to lie..the babe part just annoyed me and rubbed me the wrong way. i brought it up to him and he was pretty much like, oh she has always called me that. its not a big deal. its like calling me bro or dude. we went back and forth and he said how waitresses would call him that at the diner he used to go to blah blah blah.

 

i personally think that calling someone BABE is much different than dude. and also being an old good friend you've seen naked and a waitress who he hardly knows is completely different. HAHA

 

i'm not like angry about it or i'm not untrusting, i'm just annoyed by it. i'd rather not she call my husband babe. what do you guys think? am i over reacting?

i had the same issue with my man and one of his ex's. I expressed my opinion on that and he asked he nicely to stop calling him that. I dont think you are over-racting at all.

You're not over-reacting. I know lots of girls use the term loosely, and it was probably just like that, but when it's your husband, you have a right to say something ;-)

You're his wife. She is an old friend. Your feelings and opinions should matter over hers, whether he thinks you're over-reacting or not, he should try and make peace with the situation. Nicely explain to the friend that it makes you a bit uncomfy and if she's big enough to understand then she should replace that word with something less .. well, less "BABE". That's my nice answer lol. My other is that she needs to go "babe" someone else's husband ;)

She probably didnt mean anything by it. I have called ppl babe without meaning anything by it, I also have a friend and she calls everyone and anyone babe. I can however see why you would be upset though.

I just think that he should request her not to call him that, I have known people to call anybody and everybody "babe" but if it annoyed you then I would say something.

The first thing to remember is it's not his fault lol, cuz that's probably how I'd react. But honestly if it bothers you and as he claims, it's not a big deal, then why can't he just ask her to stop doing it? It wouldn't effect their friendship and I think it's respectful. While she probably didn't mean anything by it, she should be made aware of it because I don't think it's appropriate to call a married man babe.

Obviously if she was typing it online, she had some time to think about what she was saying. I think if she didn't mean anything by it, she wouldn't have said it.

It would have bothered me a lot. I would ask him to tell her not to call him that anymore.